Ask "Z"

Sometimes silence must trump the desire to lead

November 1, 2013
Q. I used to drink too much; still do at times. I have no intention of admitting that at work. An employee told me he’s going to Alcoholics Anonymous for his drinking. I want to lend my support. Should I share my past?

If it’s confidential, keep it that way

October 25, 2013
Q. I suspended an aide for an infraction. Some employees, including my friends, demanded the details. But I replied, “It’s confidential.” Now they’re annoyed at me. What gives?

Dealing with former peer syndrome

October 17, 2013
Q. I was recently promoted to vice president over some well-deserving peers. In my new position, I must work alongside these individuals on a variety of projects. Two of them are clearly envious of me, and as a result, they’re not very cooperative. What can I do to ensure their cooperation?

Being persistent is different from being pushy

October 10, 2013
Q. I’ve been told that my greatest strength is my determination, but my greatest liability is my limited tolerance for compromise. Any suggestions on hitting a good middle ground?

What’s wrong with being commander-in-chief?

October 4, 2013
Q. Why do we frown on business leaders who truly command?

Let them talk about their pay–it’s inevitable

September 27, 2013
Q. I manage highly paid engineers. I also manage support staff who earn minimum wage. The engineers often discuss their ritzy vacations and home remodeling projects. That makes the others jealous. How can I get these “rich folks” to stop bragging?

Show support while imposing standards

September 19, 2013
Q. My employee, Jane, has family in the military. They’re stationed in war zones. Jane’s performance is slipping—she’s just not herself. What can I do?

“Sign this”? Not so fast

September 12, 2013
Q. How do I make sure that any correspondence sent out with my name on it doesn’t come back to bite us?